I think we can all agree that adulting is no fun. As adults we often put the needs of others ahead of ourselves. As grown, responsible adults we tend to think of others feelings and wants before we consider what is best for us. It is usually out of a sense of obligation. We end up making choices based on what is expected of us. These actions can lead us to feel stressed out, overwhelmed and can even cause us to be indecisive at times.
So, what can we do to counteract these feelings? Let's start by trying to reconnect to our inner child. Now I am not saying to fall on the ground and cry it out. Although, sometimes that may be exactly what we need. Try to listen to your heart. When you feel overwhelmed close your eyes, for just a moment, ask yourself "what am I feeling?". Let yourself hear the first thing that comes to your mind, from your heart not your head. Then ask yourself, " What would I like?".
If you feel the urge to take a walk, then do it ! Try to avoid any negative reactions you may be feeling, like the need to act out in a moment of anger. If you feel the urge to jump around and expel energy, close the office door and go for it! Sometimes we need to let loose. Try something spontaneous and fun. Allow yourself to remember that what you want and need matters. Yes you still have to finish your work. Do not quit and walk away (unless you can afford to do that). Maybe you stop what you are doing and jump rope or do cartwheels, whatever it is you feel the urge to do. Return to the everyday fun of being an adult when your feeling of frustration subsides.
There are so many different techniques to calming ourselves. Try googling a few. Counting out of order works well for me. When I feel a panic attack heading my way, I count 1,3,5,7,9...etc. Taking deep breaths holding them in for a few seconds then releasing very slowly. This methods has always worked well for me. Then I stop and evaluate what I am doing at the moment. Is this what I want? Is this benefiting my family and I ? Why am I feeling this way? What do I want? Sometimes I want to dance around and sing for a moment. I put my favorite song on and I sing.
Take a few minutes the next time you feel like adulting should be banned. Find out what works for you. Try to listen to your inner child once a day and do something fun. Dance around the living room while you vacuum or sweep. Blow some bubbles in the air while you do dishes. Life is meant to be lived. Remember what it was like to be young and carefree. Let off some steam.