What does it really mean and how do you know if you are exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. According to the dictionary it means having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself. Having a false sense of entitlement can also be seen as narcissism.
Below are a few tendencies or characteristics to look out for.
* A constant need for praise/recognition
* Exploiting others with out guilt or shame
* We feel entitled
* Intimidating or bullying others
* Holding grudges or grievances against the world in general
* Being over sensitive or fragile
These are not all the signs of narcissism. What can you do if you think that you exhibit any of the above signs? Having one of these traits does not necessarily mean that you have a mental disorder. However, it does mean that you should take a hard look at your life and ask your self "am I happy?" "How is my behavior affecting the ones around me?". Ask others whom you trust for help. Make a plan and stick to it.
While I am not a doctor or a Psychologist I do, however, have experience in dealing with individuals who suffer from this disorder. You need to realize that you can not change them. These types of individuals will only change if and when they recognize that there is a problem. Make a plan and consider a private, gentle approach. Do not make a plan that you are not willing to stick to ! This is very important. You have to protect yourself and do not cater or play into their narcissistic behavior. You need to set very straight forward and clear boundaries. Make them uncomfortable and do not appease them.
Dealing with a loved one who has a tendency to be very self centered or has an inflated sense of self can be very frustrating. The false sense of entitlement and all about me attitude can truly test our patience. Try to remember that they may not even realize how they are acting.. even after you and several others have pointed it out. Try to remain calm and stick to your plan (after creating it). Do not point the finger or blame them for their actions, do the opposite and ignore it. Do not start an argument or allow it to eat at you. Walk away. If they come to you, then explain why you walked away. Often times we need to remove our selves in order to protect our own sanity.
If you or a loved one needs to talk or would like any information please feel free to reach out to me at any time. I thank you for taking the time to read this and remember to be kind always.