Everyone gets angry. Anger is a natural response, but when it is not managed it can be destructive. Anger can destroy us, our relationships and even cause harm to our health. Anger can come in many forms such as harassment, criticism, hurt, injustice, and can vary in levels from mild frustration to intense rage.
Understanding anger can be a challenge. Anger is like a warning signal from our brains. We need to be aware of when our anger is heading to a dangerous point. When you feel yourself getting angry stop and breathe. Is your anger reaching a point that is uncalled for? Is it difficult for you to cool back down? Do you feel angry several times a day? Are you verbally or physically aggressive? These are all signs that your anger is uncontrolled.
There are consequences to our anger. Anger can cause lose of job, strain on relationships, or even cause loss of marriage. Anger can make things even more frustrating. We can not take back things that we say to others and angry words cut deep.When we are angry we tend to loose control and say and do things that we wish we hadn't. We tend to take things out on who ever is around us at the time, even when we are not angry at that person. This is unhealthy and can cause serious damage to others and ourselves. Try researching long term health affects of anger. I found sites showing that anger can cause heart defects, eating disorders, anxiety, depression and so much more.
Getting our anger under control can be very difficult, but there are many ways that we can get our anger under control. If you have become accustomed to just letting go, you will need to retrain yourself. It is possible so stay strong and try not to get frustrated if you slip up. Diffusing your anger is possible and you can learn to have a positive force that drives your life.
Here are a few tips to help you along your journey.
Acknowledge your Anger
You will not be able to move forward until you acknowledge that you have an issue. This is the first and most important part of understanding and controlling your anger.
Keep a hostility Log.
We do not always understand what triggers your anger. A log can help you to learn your triggers and what pushes you to uncontrolled levels. Once you know your hot points you will be able to create a plan to help you avoid those feelings.
Accept that you do not always have to be right.
This can be very difficult. If you are a manager or a lead in your employment, it can hard to admit that you are wrong. It is hard to alter your mindset when you are always use to being the one who is giving instruction or making the decisions. It is important to remember that others' opinions count. Try to be open to the idea that other people have great ideas as well. Someone else may have the answer. We can always learn something new and being open to growth is important. We can all learn and grow from each other.
Stop the Anger; interrupt your episode
When you start to explode and you feel yourself having a moment, stop and tell yourself NO. Start deep breathing and focus on one object. Try counting in your mind to ten. Then respond to the person or situation. Simply walk away from the situation. Excuse your self and return when you are calm and can react in an appropriate way. There are several ways to calm your self down. Sing a song, take a walk, or play on your cell phone to distract your self.
There are several ways that you can learn to control your anger. Remember that learning to control your anger can help you in your personal and professional life. Strengthen the bonds in your life and become a better calmer, healthier person. Best of luck to each and everyone who may needs this. I hope it helps and I am here if you need more guidance. Have a blessed and beautiful day.